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Stress Management During Wedding Planning

Planning a weddings is STRESS-FUL! Regardless of how long you’ve been engaged, wedding planning can cause bundles of stress. From choosing your bridal party, to picking the venue and choosing the guest list, everyone is going to get on your nerves, even at times your fiancé.

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Planning the wedding you’ve dreamed about can be overwhelming. There’s so much to think about and so many “To-Do’s” to check off the list. So how do you handle the pressure while being the graceful bride your fiancé adores? Here at Curvy Rose, we have a few tips on how to manage the stressful moments and enjoy the process a little more.

Create a timeline

Yeah, we live in a digital age and we can put everything in our phones or tablets, but it really does help to write things down. It’s stressful enough planning and scheduling appointments and events, but nothing is more stressful than temporarily forgetting about them! Writing a timeline of everything you need to do before your big day helps you stay organized. This timeline can be made in the form of a “vision board” or it can be compiled into the biggest binder you can find. There are a lot of bridal organizers on the market that can help you. Some even have dividers for categories such as: catering, budget, venue, and guest list. If you don’t want to carry a binder, consider some online planning options. The Knot.com and Pinterest also have have great wedding timeline tools that will help you stay on track.

Here's a quick checklist for planning your wedding. Following this guide will help to keep you on track. 

Here's a quick checklist for planning your wedding. Following this guide will help to keep you on track. 

 

Creating a timeline early also helps you to prioritize. Although most couples spend on average $20,000 or more on their wedding, many do not. No matter your budget, it’s important to pinpoint the areas that are most important to you and your fiancé. Whether great pictures are a must have, your dream dress or a killer reception, having a timeline helps you to book vendors before they are snapped up. One little caveát, it is VERY important to buy your dress from an authorized retailer like Curvy Rose six months before the big day. Waiting to buy your gown until you get closer to your wedding only adds to the stress. Get this purchase out the way as soon as you can.  

Kate Spade Bridal Planner, features a gold 3 ring binder, a pocket with gold accents, and 48 planning pages. $48 at    katespade.com   . Curvy Rose is not a paid sponsor for Kate Spade New York

Kate Spade Bridal Planner, features a gold 3 ring binder, a pocket with gold accents, and 48 planning pages. $48 at katespade.com. Curvy Rose is not a paid sponsor for Kate Spade New York

Don't forget to do things with your fiancé that don't involve wedding planning

We all know how time consuming wedding planning can be. Once you get the ball rolling, you’ll have so much to talk about. Just don’t forget why you’re getting married in the first place--the love you have for your fiancé. Whether both of you are equally invested in wedding plans or not, remember to do things with him that don’t involve your wedding. Make sure you are talking about non-wedding related topics. Make it a priority to do something once a week that helps you and your fiancé stay connected. Go to the movies, hang out with friends, discover projects you can do together.

Romantic dinner for two | Curvy Rose | Atlanta, GA | Plus size bridal store

Remember to make time for yourself

Here at Curvy Rose, we always want to see our brides taking care of themselves. When you’re stressed about your wedding, it’s easy to fall off balance. During this stressful time keep in mind your physical and mental health. Take plenty of personal breaks when you feel yourself becoming too overwhelmed. This could look like taking time out in your day to pray or meditate, listen to music, treat yourself to a coffee or treat, or binging on Netflix for the evening.

Many brides often add dieting to their planning goals. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be healthy, but when losing weight is motivated by negative self-talk or fear of criticism, you need to let it go. Remember, you are beautiful just as you are! Consider adding exercise to your routine rather than a strict diet. Exercise is a great stress reliever. Whether you lose a pound or gain a couple, walking, taking a yoga or dance class will do wonders for your mental and physical health. You’ll sleep better too.

Bath & Body Works carries a great selection of aromatherapy candles such as their Eucalyptus Spearmint Stress Relief candle.The Eucalyptus clears your mind, while the Spearmint helps to improve concentration. $22.50 at    Bath & Body Works   . Curvy Rose is not a paid sponsor for Bath & Body Works.

Bath & Body Works carries a great selection of aromatherapy candles such as their Eucalyptus Spearmint Stress Relief candle.The Eucalyptus clears your mind, while the Spearmint helps to improve concentration. $22.50 at Bath & Body Works. Curvy Rose is not a paid sponsor for Bath & Body Works.

 

Set boundaries with your helpers

It is important to set boundaries with your loved ones during this stressful time because what you allow now is what will continue in the future. Usually, it is your mom or mother-in-law who are making the most suggestions on what you “should do.” Of course it is hard to be firm in the beginning, but the earlier you get it off your chest, the better.

A lot of people will offer you advice and assistance during this process, whether they’re married or not. I once knew a bride who was doing her wedding on a budget and wanted to book a small venue that she had fallen in love with. However, her mother-in-law told her that if she booked the venue, then none of her friends would want to come because she had told them that her son would be getting married at a country club. She then proceeded to tell this bride that if she let her book their venue at the country club, she would pay for the venue, food and drinks. This put the bride in a stressful position because while she didn’t like this venue, she also knew that if her mother-in-law paid for the venue then she could allocate her own money to other aspects of the wedding. After a couple of weeks of being stressed out over her decision, she was able to talk to her mother-in-law and explain why she and her fiancé wanted a smaller venue.

(Jennifer Lopez & Jane Fonda in Monster-in-Law)

(Jennifer Lopez & Jane Fonda in Monster-in-Law)

Remember it is never too late to have a moment of honesty with the person that is causing you unnecessary stress. When you have these moments of honesty, be sure to start by thanking them for the nice things they have done for you. Then, give them a frank explanation of how their suggestions or actions have caused you more stress. It’s always good to vent with a friend beforehand or practice a few times to make sure you’re idea of firm doesn't sound angry.

Start a journal about why you want to marry your fiancé

You can write this at your own pace, and just set the goal of writing your last journal entry either the  night before your wedding day or the morning of your wedding. You can start writing about the point when you realized you wanted to marry him, or you can start writing from the point of your engagement. Taking the time out to write down all of the reasons why you’re marrying your future husband is not only therapeutic, but it also serves as a nice heartfelt gift to give him. You can both look back on it from time to time!

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You can find great journals of varying sizes at Target, Barnes & Noble, or even Ross!

If you're DIY-ing everything, think about delegating

When it comes to working on big projects, we all have a hard time delegating tasks. However, with a wedding, these tasks can overwhelm you if you don’t have a plan. If you know that you want to be in charge of all the bigger aspects of your wedding, then start to delegate the smaller projects to someone in your bridal party or family member. This gives them something to do, while also keeping your load manageable.

Unfortunately, the stress of planning a wedding is unavoidable. Regardless of the length of your engagement, the size of your wedding, whether you hire a professional planner, or elope, you’re going to experience some stress. Just remember, you don’t have to be stressed the whole time you’re planning! It’s not healthy. You want to be able to look back on this time and smile on at least some of it. As always, Curvy Rose is here to assist in whatever you need, if you find yourself stressed about your planning process, feel free to contact us for more tips.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Note to the Curvy Bandwagon

I have always been a curvy woman, the smallest I've ever been as an adult was a size 10. And I had to work really hard at the gym to get there. Make no mistake, I am a foodie. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE mac n' cheese, bread and cake and I just don't want to give them up. Yet, there are moments, usually during the Summer that I hear that voice saying that I need to lose some weight. I know that voice very well. It's been with me for a good portion of my life telling me; if you would just lose the weight for good you could stop keeping those dresses that are too small in the back of your closet. Oh wait it's been a while since you've worn the smaller pair of jeans. You know the ones you bought along with the larger size just in case. Can you still get into them? What if you can't? The larger pair are in the laundry. What outfit are you going to put together then? There are times when my mental companion motivates me to deal with my issues, but that's rare. Most times I feel self-conscious, and disappointed that I am not as small as I used to be.

I'm sure my experience is shared with a lot of American women, whether curvy or skinny. We have all been affected in some way by this fantastical ideal fabricated by people who don't even know us personally. Yet, when your BMI (body mass index) falls on the higher end of the scale, you feel the pressure to come into line, that somehow your worth and attractiveness is connected to your weight. I've spent the better portion of my life preoccupied by how big my muffin top happened to be and measuring my beauty by a number on the scale. 

I'm thrilled that the stigma and shame that was once shunned and ignored is now being acknowledged and celebrated. Major magazine covers are featuring curvy models, big-box department stores are using curvy models more often in their advertising. And bridal designers have either created an additional collection specifically for curvy women, expanded their size charts or are patiently waiting to see how this trend goes before jumping into the fray. 

Let me be clear, I LOVE that brides have more options in wedding gowns these days. Whether traditional or boho it's important that a bride's wedding reflects her and her groom's personal style. I'm grateful to carry collections in Curvy Rose that are designed for the curvy bride. My thing is this, dressing a curvier woman requires more than just an expanded size chart, a watered-down style of the flagship collection, or a few styles to choose from. Curvy women as with all women, deserve the styling, details and options that reflect her style, regardless of her weight.

I shared my views on this issue in a recent email conversation with a bridal sales rep. He had just informed me that Curvy Rose wouldn't be able to carry the collection for internal business reasons. I was fine with the reason given, yet I felt this need to inform him and the powers that be of the potential opportunity their designs offered all women.   Here's a snippet of what I said: 

Plus size bridal is new and a lot of designers don't understand the specific needs of that market. There's definitely more to it than adding larger sizes. Styling, construction and a variety of designs to choose from are just as important.... At the end of the day profits must be achieved and I get that. If they change their minds, let me know. I'd be more than thrilled to add them. I'm confident they would sell in my store. 

This designer didn't have a dedicated collection for the curvier woman yet, their styling and construction were so on point. Their gowns had exquisite beading and some gowns featured ruching around the waist, which is a flattering style on most women. Their use of fabric and thoughtful use of illusion backs were unique even for the curvier bride. It's too bad that Curvy Rose won't be carrying them. 

My sister and I spend much of our free time scouring the globe for designers that reflect the quality, styling and options that all brides, adore. Our current focus is finding boho styles to add to our collection. The market is full of many beautiful boho looks, but sizing in 20+ remains a challenge. I'm not quite sure why this is so,  considering that the average American woman is a size 14 and in some regions a 16/18. One thing is for sure, the curvy woman is not a trend. I just hope that one day this  current bandwagon gives way to the universal acceptance of a woman's beautiful curves regardless of her size. Until then, Curvy Rose will continue to join others in the movement for making that dream a reality. 

One of the many gowns that will arrive this Fall from all of our designers. This gorgeous gown is from MoriLee's curvy collection,  Julietta  #3206 

One of the many gowns that will arrive this Fall from all of our designers. This gorgeous gown is from MoriLee's curvy collection, Julietta #3206 


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